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Words of Affirmation

A few weeks before Valentines Day, I received a newsletter from one of the random things I have subscribed to over the years.  Most of the time, these newsletters don't catch my attention. However, this one did.

It was a call for husbands and wives to Love Each Other - more than just on Valentines Day. I was intrigued by this challenge because it challenges to you love your spouse by using THEIR love language.

If you're not familiar with the Love Languages, you should check the book out of the library, or buy it on Amazon. It's really interesting (you could probably find the test online).

Anyways, it's not secret that I LOVE (like really Love) getting gifts. It doesn't matter the cost, it only matters that you saw something and thought of ME. It makes me feel valued by the person who gave me a gift. Sometimes knowing that about myself makes me feel a little shallow, but ... the fact is. I REALLY enjoy getting things. I love it so much, that when it comes time to de-clutter my house I have a hard time. I have a difficult time, because I remember when I received most every single gift.

In contrast... Chris' love language is "Words of Affirmation" it makes him feel valued and respected when someone takes the time to listen to him, write him a note of encouragement, or just spend time discussing things.

Isn't it interesting? There is no doubt in my mind that Chris loves me. There is no doubt in my mind that he knows I love HIM.  So, why do a love challenge again?

The love challenge takes my love language (you know, the one that makes me happy) and teaches me to learn to LOVE my husband in a way that HE feels respected.

I highly encourage husbands and wives to INVEST in each other.

Invest your time, it's SO worth it.

I've had so much fun learning to love my husband (even more), I wanted to share with you some tidbits from the challenge.

Chris' Love Language - Words of Affirmation

1) Notes All Over
I was challenged to write notes and put them ALL over. Can I just tell you, I had soooo much fun coming up with cheesy notes. In my opinion, the cheesier it was, the better it was. My favorite note was one about bringin' home the bacon. I wrote a little note thanking him for bringing home the bacon and stuck it in his wallet on his debit card.

*Never underestimate the power of a Post It*

2) The Conversation Starter
I had to bring up a topic that we needed to discuss but made us feel awkward or uncomfortable. I had to create an environment for us to speak openly and honestly.
Wow, that one was hard at first. But... I think it was a good thing for us. We talked about our future goals, dreams, desires both in our personal life, and in our spiritual life (this included ministries).

                          *Just talk, it's fun - Go get coffee together. Dates are FUN!*

3)  The Dream
After the conversation starter, I was then encouraged to write a letter to my husband affirming that I am proud of him. In addition, I had to list specific examples of WHY I appreciate him and am proud of him.

*Babe, you know I'm proud of you for doing so awesome in graduate school*

Go ahead, dare to love your spouse. 

I Dare you!

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